There exists a huge web of dangers to babies which is hard to maneuver through for a new beginner. Here is a list of the ones that I wish I knew from day 1.
The most important is to always be present (physically and mentally) and to use common sense at all times. If you are tired or for some reason will not manage to be present at all times, ask for help!
Make sure the baby never is too hot and always has enough air. Never cover up the stroller with a blanket. Make sure the temperature is good (you can check by putting a finger in the neck/ on the chest – it is supposed to be normal temperature, not cold and not warm. If the baby is really warm in the neck she is way too hot, take off clothes and/ or open window. If you take off / on clothes or the weather changes, check the temperature again after some time to be sure. NB! Babies can die from overheat or not enough air.
Be careful with any heights. Never leave the baby on the nursing table or on the kitchen counter. Never leave a window open and ALWAYS close the upper lock on the windows.
Make sure there are small pieces / things / food that can get stuck in the baby’s mouth. F.ex. the lids to the baby smoothies, hard nuts etc. Always be with the baby during a meal.
NB! If you suspect something is stuck in the mouth this is what to do:
First, let the baby try to solve the situation by itself through coughing.
Second, try to gently hit the baby with a flat, open hand 5 times on the back between the shoulder blades.
If that does not work, try 2 breast compressions for babies under 1 year or the Heimlich maneuver for children above 1 years.
Try to see inside the mouth if you can see the object. If it is easy to remove you can do that, but don’t attempt if there is a chance of pushing it further down.
If the baby is unconscious and does not breathe call 113.
After finishing a bath always empty at once. Never leave the baby unattended in the bath or by the pool / seaside.
Never leave a baby in a room where she is alone with an electrical contact that has not been set baby proof. NB! Remember they can pull out electrical cords.
Be super careful with cars, bicycles etc. Hold hands at ALL TIMES when around cars (parking lots, road etc.)
#7 CHEMICALS/ MEDICINES / DANGEROUS FOOD etc.
Never keep soaps, vanish bottles, medicines, or any poisonous substances. Nb! No honey and nuts for babies.
#8 GENERAL CONDITION
Call the doctor if the baby has poor general condition, including if you do not get normal contact / response from the baby, if she is remarkably tired, has high fever (very hot in face/neck region), not wet diapers, cries all the time.
#9 STUFFY NOSE
The smallest newborns don’t breathe through their mouth, only the nose. If the baby has a cold and the nose is blocked – use a lot of salt water spray / water and clean the nose.
You may want to try tickle the baby underneath the nose to trigger a sneeze in order to help rinse the nose a little extra. After food and when bathing you can throw some water gently up in the nose. Use soft,dry tissues to clean off excess water and mucus. Make sure to keep the baby in an upright position when rinsing the nostrils as the water goes back and down into the mouth.
#10 HOT LIQUIDS
Coffee cups, boiling kettles and saucepans should NEVER be within reach of babies. Make it a habit of having the handle for the saucepan turned towards the wall and not towards you.
Let the baby “do their thing” but sitting in an upright position (ie. if the baby is lying down in the stroller it is super important to help the baby into an upright position. Make sure to clean the airways (nose especially) with water and salt water spray after. If the baby won’t drink, try to give water by spoon (or 50:50 apple juice and water).
#12 SHARP OBJECTS AND HARD SURFACES
Be careful with sharp objects (knives, scissors etc.), and sharp angles (table corners etc.). Be extra careful to follow the baby around when she is walking on stone and other hard surfaces. If the baby falls and seems unwell / is throwing up after it may be a concussion and she needs to be taken to the doctor.
Can get stuck around finger, toe, etc. and limit blood supply. NB! Be careful!
#14 LONG OBJECTS
Don’t let the baby run around with sharp objects, long sticks etc. in case they trip.
#15 HEAVY / SHARP OBJECTS FROM ABOVE
The baby can pull the lamp’s electrical cord, pull out / climb on a bedside table etc. etc. Take necessary measures or watch the baby at all times.
NB! In winter time there can be ice or snow from the roofs that may fall down. Never walk / stand right under the roofs in winter time.
#16 SHAKING the baby.
Maybe surprising to some, but every year children get severely hurt because a caregiver shakes the baby in a moment of desperation, typically when the baby cries non-stop. Remember, if your temper gets to this point, take a break. Put the baby down into its bed and close the door. Take deep breaths and do not walk in before you are calm and can “play” the responsible, calm adult again.
#17 Plastic bags
Remove from reach of baby. Chocking hazard.
IN CASE OF EMERGENCY
Always keep a phone in the house / bring outdoor in case of emergency. (But please do not use on an everyday basis unless necessary).
PS. Please let me know if you have more points to this list so I can update 🙂
Mange, i likhet med meg selv, hadde mange spørsmål de første ukene etter fødsel. Jeg ønsker å dele mine erfaringer i tilfelle det treffer din magefølelse.
Husk at alt er i endring. I neste uke er det “noe annet”.
Det beste rådet jeg vet er å stole på seg selv og instinktet sitt. Så kan man velge hva man ønsker å lytte til av annen informasjon (med nôen unntak, ex. D-vitamin fra uke 6 etc). Jeg ønsker å dele i tilfelle det treffer din magefølelse.
Punktene under forutsetter en frisk baby.
#1Nærhet og melk i massevis!
Det beste jeg kunne gjøre da baby-ene mine var nyfødte var å “skjemme de bort” med nærhet og pupp (dvs. bæreseler og sjal i alle fasonger). Jeg leste et sted at det sterkeste instinktet til en baby er å få i seg nok mat, de er livredde for å ikke få nok, og de første ukene er det derfor mange mødre som har en “drive” til å gi pupp hele tiden. Det er kanskje ikke så rart at man har det.
Om man ikke kan amme, så er det flaske. Det er det også om man har for lite melk, eller baby-en foretrekker flaske av andre årsaker. Noen har for mye melk, og det kan være plagsomt for baby-en også – mye kaving ved brystet og masse luft som kommer med inn i magen. Snakk med helsesøster – de er ofte veldig fornuftige på dette. Ellers har ammehjelpen mange flotte artikler.
#2 Tarmen trenger pause
Selv om nærhet og nok melk er bra, er også en god pause (dvs. flere timer uten mat) sunt for tarmene. Etter at tarmen har tatt opp næring begynner nemlig “støvsugerjobben”. Den stopper i det øyeblikk man får en matbit (melk) i munnen.
Pause får babyen om hun er mett og trygg og får sove lenge inntil mammas bryst. Når babyen har funnet dyp søvn kan man jo prøve å legge henne ned, så hun lærer seg, litt etter litt, at det er deilig å sove alene også. I det minste blir sengen assosiert med kos og ikke gråt, spesielt om man er bevisst på å legge baby på “riktig tidspunkt” (ren, mett, sliten og glad, men før hun er overtrett. Ofte er dette når man merker at baby begynner å bli litt grinete, gjesper, gnir seg i øynene etc). Mange er redde for at babyen skal bli vant til å sovne på brystet, men om det hjelper i noen uker i en tid hvor babyen skal introduseres til livet utenfor magen så hvorfor ikke gi litt ekstra trygghet i en liten periode.
#3 Tid til å jobbe med magen
Så er det dette med umodne tarmer – mine babyer trengte å ligge stille alene på magen og “jobbe” helt uforstyrret. Det var typisk når jeg hadde vært opptatt med storebror at jeg kom tilbake til lekegrinden og så at det hadde vært “eksplosjon”.
Dette kan være en vanskelig sak for den lille som er helt ny til konseptet om å bæsje. Derfor kan det være lurt å legge inn denne egentiden når babyen er uthvilt og fornøyd, typisk på formiddagen. Etter en lang dag med mange inntrykk (lukter, lyder, lys, berøring, etc.) så kan det være vanskeligere å konsentrere seg om dette.
#4 Legg før kveldsuroen starter
Veldig mange opplever at babyen blir mer grinete på kvelden. Typ at man må gå og bysse og høre på gråt fra kl 19.00 til 01.00 eller mer. Det er SÅ slitsomt og SÅ vondt! For mine to har det vært verst rundt uke 5-8.
Med min andre så prøvde jeg å legge henne før det startet, samtidig med storebror. Vi startet med kveldsrutiner tidlig (ca uke 6), dvs. bad, krem, pysj, kos og godfølelse, og så “natta, sov godt” på mørkt uforstyrret rom. Det tok et par dager med inn og ut og påtår etc., opptil flere ganger ila kvelden. Men det var liksom «natt» fra dag 1, dvs. ikke noen stor oppmerksomhet til barnet (gjør det man skal uten lek og styr og prat og lys og stimuli).Overraskende fort så kom hun inn i storebror sin rytme, og man slapp de slitsomme kveldene.
#5 Alle barn er forskjellige.
Noen får “lette barn”, andre ikke, det er ikke “din fortjeneste” eller “din feil”, husk at mye er genetiske variasjoner, også for personlighet.
Det man kan gjøre, er å sette “rammene”, rutinene – dette gir en viss følelse av trygghet. Etterhvert som man repeterer ting, så kjenner barna dette igjen. Samme kveldsrutine med bad, pysj, kos og mat, etterhvert blir det nesten morsomt; barnet gjør tingene før du har fått tid til å tenke deg om!
Det er slitsomt å være mamma. 24 t i døgnet. Det er “no mercy”. Kroppen din har vært igjennom en enorm endring på kort tid. Det har også du som person – du har blitt mamma, og med det følger nye “innstillinger” i hjernen. Du ønsker ALT for den lille.
Har du noen som kan ta med baby på en trilletur hver dag så du får sove eller evt gjøre noe annet som du blir glad av? Å få baby er altoppslukende i starten og om man er så heldig at man kan få avlastning så er litt søvn gull verdt for mor og barn<3
#7 En god lege og helsesøster
Om du ikke har rett følelse med legen din så kan man vurdere å bytte. Alt over forutsetter en sunn og “normal” baby – det er klart at ingenting er perfekt hos en som er ny til livet, men allergier, medfødte unormaliteter, og sykdom etc. skal selvfølgelig utelukkes ved mistanke om dette.
Håper dette kan være til nytte for noen – men husk at det kan være det samme hva jeg sier – det er hva din magefølelse forteller deg som er det viktigste.
What I love about gratefulness is that there is no right or wrong. You can be grateful for your new toothbrush, your health, education, family, nature, sun, earth, yoga, sports, laugh, conversations, coffee and so much more. What are you grateful for?
Lots of my students ask for exercises to reset their mind. Here’s a great guided meditation class – try it out!
A busy mind
During a busy day our stress hormones, especially adrenaline and cortisol, increase. Our thoughts are easily distracted. Suddenly you realise that you’ve read a sentence several times or gone to the kitchen and back without the thing you went there for. Tensions in the body build up; your shoulders rise towards your ears and the back is starting to ache.
This is the time to reset. Try the exercise below – I promise it will make you feel more centred.
Yoga Relaxation Bodyscan
The video below is a short and easy meditation exercise called “bodyscan”. Find yourself a quiet space where you can lie down (preferably – but you can do this exercise in a seated position too). It lasts for 14 minutes, so make sure to set the phone on silent.
Ps.To me it feels like 4 minutes – not 14. Good luck!
Sometimes it feels good with a led yoga class. But what do you do if you’re on vacation without any yoga studios nearby? – YouTube! I’ve collected some of my favorite videos that I’ve practiced to this summer.
Full asthanga primary series
This is my all time favorite led primary series class. The pace is perfect and I get such a good rhythm in my practice. Highly recommended for those that have practiced yoga for a while.
Sun salutation A and B for beginners
Sometimes I like to go back to the basics and be reminded of the fundamentals in yoga. This video by David Swendson is perfect for that.
Love Meghan Currie’s slow mindful yoga style. If you want to (re)connect with your core (pelvic floor and abdominal muscles) I strongly reccommend this class. Although it is suuuper slow you will probably be equally suuuper sore the following day.
Laruga Glaser has a beautiful practice that serves as a reminder of being soft and gentle with the body. The subtle transitions and the even movements are just faboulus!
In a world of unlimited options, the act of choosing one path implies the exclusion of other preferences. How do you know if you are making the right choice?
People spend a lot of time assessing pro’s and con’s to ensure thorough decision-making. After all, a choice has the potential to alter your whole life!
Unfortunately, the effort put into the thought-process often generates a lot of frustration. Moreover, the degree of effort put into a decision does not necessarily lead to a feeling of having made the “right” choice. In fact, science shows that we actually end up being worse off as a result of more choices.
The paradox of choice
In an experiment, a number of students from Harvard University were given a choice of selecting one picture each to keep. Half of the students were allowed to change their mind and swop their chosen picture into another one at any time, the other half were not given this choice. Then their relative happiness was measured.
What was the result? – It turns out that those that werenot given an option were a lot happier with their painting than the other group.
Moreover, the study found that most of the students at Harvard University believed that the group with a choice was better.
We prefer having more choices but end up being worse off with those privileges!
A world of opportunities
In a world of unlimited options this is a real problem, for the paradox of choice applies to all aspects of life.
Case: You get invited to a dinner next weekend, and you have to make a choice; yes or no. You hesitate. For it might be that another event pops up in the Facebook-feed, and that this event could be more appealing. You check Instagram, Facebook, messenger and Snapchat too, just to be sure. And the gym timetable just in case your favorite class is an option. You also check the weather forecast – what if it’s sun? Then you would rather want to be outside enjoying the energy of fresh air and heat rather than being at an indoor dinner party. But wait. Your calendar looks full next week, and you have been stressing a lot lately. Maybe it is better to stay at home and do yoga? To catch up on some of that reading. And what is your boyfriend doing? I should really see him, it’s been a while since you two had a date night. I can’t respond the dinner invitation just yet. Just in case…
See the problem? We keep thinking about what we might lose out on whilst life is passing by. We are not enjoying the current events, things, people or places 100% because we are dedicating thought and energy into constantly considering everything else. Just because we are under the delusion that more options are always a good thing.
How do we take advantage of our privileged world of opportunities?
The link between choices and yoga
One can learn a lot about decision-making from yoga.
Asana offers a practice of decision-making on the mat. How much do I push myself in order to be challenged, yet without trying too hard? Do I go further into the posture? Am I ready to try handstand? Should I pass on the next posture because of my injured knee, etc. A general rule is to practice Ahimsa, non-violence. To be kind to your body and soul. To not strive for the perfect but for the safe and smooth practice that gives you progress. What is really perfection compared to progress?
Asteya is another corner stone in yoga philosophy which is super helpful in decision making. Literally it means “no-stealing”- ie. not stealing time, things, ideas and so on. Further it can be interpreted as not getting lost to your ego – to not force anything. For instance, if you are cuddling a puppy and she wants to leave, you should let her go. For if you force the puppy to stay on your lap, it doesn’t want to come back next time.
Learning to letting things come and go is part of the yoga philosophy. We are accepting that change is inevitable. We are practicing to be content with “enough”.
“Learning to letting things come and go is part of the yoga philosophy. We are accepting that change is inevitable. We are practicing to be content with enough.”
Meditation is key in yoga. It improves your observation of the body and mind. Is the mind still and focused, or are the thoughts wandering off? With practice one becomes better at realizing when the thoughts wander. Hence, you get new chances to bring yourself back to the moment, to what really counts. Being here and now 100% increases your clarity and trust in your intention. Instead of making lists, you start feeling what choices to make. You do what makes you happy.
It doesn’t really matter
A similar trend for all those three points is balance. Yoga is essentially about learning to practice with dedication but effortlessly. Not too much, not too little. Just enough. Throughout a yoga class, you are constantly challenged to make decisions in order to find this balance.
Feeling lost in the paradox of choice? Join our yoga classes to explore the power of moving meditation. The goal is less effort to choices and more to the current moment. You’ll see that you don’t have to think about all your options at all times. For as long as you are present to experience that the now makes you happy, it doesn’t really matter what choice is “right” by thought.